Steps to no insecurities!

Everyday we have to deal with our inner demons. You know the ones. The voices in our heads that say, "You're too fat..stupid...not brave enough...scared..etc." We can all fill in the blanks with our own insecurities.

So how do you keep those little demons from talking in our ear and preventing our growth and success in life?

I think we need to approach it like an addiction, you know with steps. AA has twelve and perhaps we can start with a few of those.

First step, acknowledge you have a demon/insecurity and what it is. Even more, understand that you really are quite powerless against it's control in your life. Once you've done that then you are better equipped to actually make change. Because admitting you have this insecurity might bring up not only stuff from present day but a lot of emotions from the past.

Next step, once you acknowledge it, you need to kinda give it up. How you do that can be in a multitude of ways.  Through faith, yoga, meditation, screaming from the roof whatever you choose. Or maybe you realize that these insecurities only define you if you let them. Take a piece of paper and write the insecurity on it, and then have a bonfire and burn them. Free yourself from their power by knowing they are only demons and aren't real. They are only words someone said or things you believed, not true facts.

Make amends. In AA they make amends to those that they have harmed. In this case, we're gonna make amends to ourselves. Amends for the times we've shorted ourselves out of something we didn't believe we deserved. The time we didn't take a chance with something or someone we wanted because we didn't think we were good enough. Or maybe even make amends for not taking the chance to be passionate about anything in our lives. Whatever we've cheated ourselves, apologize to yourself for it.

And lastly, honor yourself and let go of the demon/insecurity that you've let rule your life so far. It isn't the truth, it's usually only one person's opinion. Be brave and change that mindset, and go out there and be different. Small steps at first, but once you do something completely brave, applaud yourself. One step will lead to another and so on until you're soon striding towards an absolutely new destination.

Steps are a good way to begin to manufacture change in your life. Admitting to yourself that you have issues that need to be addressed means you've grown up enough to change. Then congratulate yourself when you do something different than before...it's huge and the beginning of breaking the cycle.

Okay, so repeat after me....I _______ have a problem with _______ and as such I am now releasing the hold that this insecurity has on me. I now will choose to take an action based on truth rather than someones else opinion. I ______ will give myself a big high five when I act in a new and powerful way.

You are now on your way. And for the record, I think you're amazing!

Lorena